Archive for resistance
Too Nervous To Think Up A Title
Posted by: | CommentsI got up this morning wearing my internet marketing coach hat, primed and ready (or so I thought) to offer coaching during Ed Dale’s 2010 challenge. I went to the computer and, next thing I know, I look up and an hour has passed. And since then 2 more hours!
This is a classic example of fear and procrastination working their evil and stopping me before I even start.
At times like these, I’m not even able to notice the thoughts that are operating but I know they are there because I feel nauseous and my hands are shaking slightly – classic symptoms of fear.
Blimey, you may be thinking, what an earth is she preparing to offer that has her in such a tizzy?
- – - Nothing that I haven’t done in other forms, hundreds of times before.
- – - Nothing that isn’t a great love of mine.
But that’s the thing about fear of course, it’s not rational!
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My intention had been to write a blog post about preparing to fail the 2010 challenge but I was stopped in my tracks.
So, being a believer in the old adage to “practice what you preach” I have taken myself off to a more productive environment. And I’m writing this in my favourite cafe armed with a capucchino and panini.
But, even the lure of those treats was not enough to move me initially so I had to resort to another favourite tactic of mine – dipping into my “inspiration file”.
Today I chose to rewatch Jonathan Fields’s video ‘Turning Fear Into Fuel‘ and that finally got me moving.
Towards the end of the video he addresses the audience and asks who’s sitting there, NOT doing something that has the opportunity to make them come alive and yet would do it if they were 100% certain they would not fail?
Well, that would be me then.
I love coaching.
It certainly makes me come alive.
My client’s love my coaching.
So what’s there’s to fear?
Well, this is Ed’s baby and he may be mad at me for offering coaching without asking his permission and this may be the one time when my coaching is crap and people might send me hate mail and I might get really, really bored with it and other people taking the challenge may resent my offer and question who the hell I think I am to step in here and I could be wildly successful and find that there is no way back and I might discover that internet marketing coaching is not as great as I think it might be and I’ll have spent all this time and energy on a website that is now redundant and way too personal to sell and then what the hell will I do for the rest of my year of mentoring with Ed and . . . and . . . and . . .
Well, I think you get the picture.
So, let’s cut to the chase here . . .
Do I want to do this?
. . . Yes!
So what’s the next step?
Create a Skype account solely for the 2010 challenge and tweet about this post . . .
. . . done!
Details of my 2010 Challenge coaching will follow. Unless, of course, Ed contacts me and tells me to remove this post and/or my inbox starts to fill with hate mail and . . . no . . . wait . . . hang on . . . done that. Been there.
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If you are reading this and NOT doing something that has the opportunity to make you come alive please Skype me on challenge.100 and let’s get you onto the next step.
Jonathan Fields’s Turning Fear Into Fuel Speech
Posted by: | Comments“I cannot resign myself to the notion of living the rest of my life in a vacuum of regret.
I cannot resign myself to the notion that I will have spent time on this earth with never having done anything to actually come alive, out of fear.
And I cannot fathom that in some way, in my action or inaction, I may have taught my daughter . . . to do the same.”
- Jonathan Fields
Be The Change You Want To See
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s 8.30 a.m. and I’m already in my favourite cafe ready to go. I’m amazed at how busy it is. I’m often still in my dressing gown at this time of the day!
I’m here so bright and early because I wanted to write a blog post after my coaching session yesterday and recognised that I was unlikely to do it at home or in the co-working space I use. It feels a bit of a challenge and, as I mentioned in my creating a my productive environment post, my best strategy for overcoming my resistance is to take myself off to a caff and work there.
I had a great session with my coach yesterday afternoon. We explored the conflict between my desire to build an internet marketing business and my lack of drive to do so. It feels like I am constantly having to haul myself back onto the path. Constantly fighting resistance and constantly turning it into more of a drama than it really is. But, that’s OK. I’m new at this.
And when I say “this”, I don’t mean internet marketing. I’ve been playing around with that for years. By “this” I mean being truly committed to making a go of it. To really treating it like a business and connecting with it, rather than speaking the words and not acting on them. And when I say “acting on them” I don’t mean simply taking action but taking the right action. Taking the action that someone who was truly committed to building an internet marketing business would take.
The main takeaway from the session was what I’ve advocated on this blog, a number of times, namely, to connect what you are doing with why you are doing it. I keep forgetting to do this. Talk about “you teach best what you most need to learn”!
But there’s a bit of a twist for me. As you know by now, it’s not just about the money. It would be great to be in a financial position whereby my partner could give up his job, but that’s not enough to keep me at it.
I also want to coach and am not clear how that would actually look.
Because I want a successful internet marketing business whilst also wanting to coach, the purposes behind my sites have got a bit blurred. It’s a bit of a struggle to try and get traffic to this site using SEO because internet marketing is a saturated market, filled with experts. So, I need to return to where I started and treat Internet Marketing Coaching Year, primarily as a place where a story is told.
Then, my other sites, become “grist for the mill” for that story.
So what exactly is that story?
It is the story of someone who has been involved in internet marketing for 7 or 8 years without ever making a full-time living from it who is turning it around, not with strategies and tactics, but by transforming herself.
And that is the nub of my coaching. If you are currently unsuccessful at internet marketing, and you’ve been at it for a while, no amount of “better” strategies and tactics will change that. YOU have to change. You have to be the change you want to see.
At the start of each day, rather than asking yourself “What am I going to do today?” ask yourself “Who am I going to be today?” and then act accordingly.
